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Perfectionism and Procrastination

Thursday, 11 June 2020




I have been struggling with procrastination
 and perfectionism for a long time. I had no idea 
the two were siblings. 
Twins actually....and therefore constant companions.
 When this struggle will end, I don't know.
Frequently, as I age, I find myself silently fighting within myself 
I know there are many of you who are in  the same battles, 
every day, every hour and sometimes every minute.
So here are some encouraging quotes 
from Anne Lamott's book  Bird by Bird on the topic. 
May they encourage you to get on with your creative project..
And also go out and buy the book :)

1.   'I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that
if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping stone just right,
you won't have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway
and that a lot of people who aren't even looking at their feet
are going to do a whole lot better than you,
and have a lot more fun while they're doing it.'
2.   'Perfectionism means that you try desperately not to leave
so much mess to clean up. But clutter and mess show us that
life is being lived. Clutter is wonderfully fertile ground---you can
still discover new treasures under all those piles, clean things up, 
edit things out, fix things, get a grip. 
Tidiness suggests that something is as good
as it's going to get. '
3.   'Perfectionism is one way our muscles cramp.
In some cases we don't even know that the wounds and
 the cramping are there, but both limit us.
They keep us moving and writing in tight,worried ways. 
They keep us standing back or backing away from life,
keep us from experiencing life in a naked and immediate way.
So how do we break through them and get on?'
4.   'Vonnegut said, "When I write, I feel like an armless
legless man with a crayon in his mouth."
So go ahead and make big scrawls and mistakes. 
Use up lots of paper.' 
  5.    'What people somehow (inadvertently, I am sure)
forget to mention when we were children was
that we need to make messes in order to find out who we are
and why we are here--- and, by extension, what we're
supposed to be writing.'

Hope you feel inspired.
Keep working away...
Keep publishing and learning.  


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Taking Stock: Half way through 2020 and the COVID 19 Pandemic...

Tuesday, 9 June 2020




Making:  Juices! Juicing! Juicer! 
Cucumber plus carrot plus ginger plus apples 
plus lemon equals healthy living during a pandemic.
I have already written about my burnout-cure here.
When I say 'my' I mean it worked for me.
I don't like eating vegetables and fruits 
so JUICING is  my new GO TO. 
And guess what? 
I am making it my self! 
I know...whaaaat!?
Thanks to a juicer donation from a bestie,
I am not sure who this new me is...


Drinking: Soy Milk. And my stomach says thank you.

Reading: The Ickabog by J.K. Rowling. Being a fan of Harry Potter
from childhood, I could NOT miss out on reading this even if 
I am above the target audience lol...

Playing: Not playing anything...wow...
I need to find a game for fun.

Wishing: I really missed my friends during lockdown.
I have been waiting and wishing for that part of 
my life to return. But so many adjustments will be made.
I spend too much unnecessary money.
Spending well and  Saving Saving for the rest of 2020
We must have side incomes in 2021,
In Jesus' name Amen!
 
Enjoying:  My  new daily routine developed during full lockdown.
All  the vegetables and fruits I eat,
and the 30 minute home workouts are 
surprisingly fun and good for my mental and physical health. 
Again....I don't know who this new me is but...
She takes two hour walks with my Bestie once a week
 which is really a therapy session in disguise.
Also  NOT commuting to and from work, 
and working from home is mostly nice; 
because Traffic with this 7.00 pm curfew is NUTS.
 

Writing:  I have slowly started writing on this blog again. 
There are many drafts tucked away
that I need to bring to fruition. 
Slowly but surely! 
It was encouraging to see one of my childhood friends 
 describe  this space as 'insightful & awesome' 
I just felt so appreciated 
for creating and maintaining this blogging nook. 
* insert happy tears*

Loving: Having my little home. 
It has triggered
my own organizing cleaning schedule.
And really helped with my anxiety. 
It was time.

Eating: Pork, Roast Chicken bought in my neighborhood,
 and UgaRoll chapatis.....yummy!
A restaurant that has surprised me is the Olives Restaurant... 
their Thai Coconut Chicken Soup and Chicken 
Methi Palak with butter naan is on point!
I am still a foodie even in the Lockdown.
 
 
Needing: To be okay with fighting for myself.
Setting boundaries  and sticking to them
Guidance. Wisdom. Praying for them. 
Patiently waiting for them to come.


Wearing: Invested in gym clothes. 
'Invested' not 'bought' because I will use them every day.
I wanted to stop using whatever clothing 
I found in my cupboard that's not worn in public anymore,
and motivate myself.
Acquired 5kg weights as well, all of it from from @donealthletics, 
This exercise routine must go to 2021 and 2022!
In Jesus' name amen.  

Knowing: I have Martyr syndrome in my relationships.
I am learning not to sacrifice myself,
really benefiting from @themindgeek posts on Instagram
about  attachments styles

Thinking:  How useful making time for Headspace sessions is.
Making time to quiet the mind is important.
Even switching of your lights at night and
 just sitting in silence is good for the soul.
There is too much going on sometimes. 
Clearing physical and mental clutter is a must!

Giggling Over: 90 day fiance. That show is just reality gold!
All in the pursuit of love for some and 'love' for others.





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