Love is Blind has captivated me through all its intriguing seasons, and the UK version along with season seven sparked a need to write this blog post.

There has been laughter.
There has been confusion with rapid blinking.

There has been some occasional shouting at the screen,

and a loooooooot of tik-tok debriefing sessions. 

What exactly motivated me to share my thoughts here? 

This common narrative below.

A man  meets a women, who he pursues and expresses his unconditional love for, only  for it to become apparent that he has either omitted some truths or become entangled himself in significant lies that can’t be overlooked or overcome. 

These untruths create tension in the relationship. As the woman seeks clarity and truth, she encounters intense gaslighting from him, making her doubt her feelings and her own intuition. 

Often, these situations leave her feeling confused and questioning her choices, while the man seems to avoid all accountability.

What I find most concerning is how the man doubles down in deflection with a clear intent to rip this women's self esteem to shreds.

It leads to months of introspection, anxiety even depression for the women. Until finally someone tells her or it occurs to her on her own.... she is not the problem. He is. 

Meanwhile said man is walking around in denial acting like he's the one who was wronged. Only when he is publicly called out on social media does he reluctantly apologize to her. 

We see this same story over and over again in real life and reality tv (though in the real world the apology may never come).

Can this please stop?

I would like the producers to take responsibility and actively seek opportunities to address this behavior. There's a missed opportunity to creatively demonstrate healthy ways to handle such situations, whether the couple decide to end their relationship or work through their issues.

Dear producers, you can give us fantastic trashy reality tv and educate us at the same time. Please do so.