Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
- Being A Woman in Today's World Means... "As I get older and start to understand the complexities of being a woman across the globe, the meaning of it can be difficult to articulate. Each of us live a different set of privileges and life experiences" ~ Tania Clarke Read More Here
- Menstruation: "It didn’t happen instantly. But that’s when it
started. That day, I realized that I could no longer afford to act like a
child. I couldn’t let myself be walked over. I couldn’t let anyone (besides my
parents since I was still a minor, hehe) make decisions for me. I had to use my
voice" ~ Chipo Read More Here...
- What Makes a Woman a Woman?: "Women are not made in a single moment! It takes time to build a beautiful & intelligent woman of virtue, some more than others. Truth is, you will find 30 year old girls & 19 year old women." ~ Liz Byamugisha Read More Here...
- Growing Into A Woman: "As a girl leaving adolescence and approaching adulthood, the most important thing I have learned is to never stop seeking knowledge. Whether it’s knowledge on finances, fitness, the arts, or simply how things work." ~ Masani Baily Read More Here
- Living Your Best Single Life: Long story short, this book made me realize it was okay to “eat off the fine china.” I needed to embrace living. I realized I had been waiting for my life to “begin” (cue Tangled song), but, in fact, my life was already in full swing." ~ Allysse Shank Read More Here...
- Advice to Your Future Self: "Always remember we never run from the rain, so please let it cleanse you on days when you need it the most. Disappear from the crowd a lot, it helps with finding your peace and joy through prayer."~ Sinawo Bukani Read More Here...
- Marriage: "You know I´ve been thinking...perhaps it´s about the pause. The being. The here. The now. The joy. The satisfaction. Maybe we should stop setting the goals and just BE. “Enjoy the journey” as they say. Dig deeper, pick up that relationship with God. I recommend that you continue surrounding yourself with incredible women who inspire you and who fill you with that powerful energy which flows with every beat of your heart." ~ Rebecca Gindere. Read More Here...
- Motherhood: "Eventually, My husband returns to work. It’s now just me and our baby. There is so much to do, and that the small voice is back again doubting me, “You are never going to manage without extra help!” ~ Jean Wanyana Read More Here...
- Love: " ‘You’re here’, you say to me, with a slight smile, your eyes never once leaving mine. The neighbor goes quiet for the first time in a long time, looking at each one of us in turns as he tries to understand, no, to absorb what is happening. Everything stands still. This right here, this is one of those moments. " ~ Kullein Ankunda Read More Here...
Thank you to these lovely ladies for sharing their stories.
I am curious. Dear Reader, What was your moment? What is your story?
Dear Queen
(Queeny to be more affectionate).
You knew
you were a woman the day you realized that running from your marriage was not an option for you.
It would always catch up with you and running
is not brave or difficult, it would be the easy escape. It would always catch
up because it´s not about him, it´s about the dynamic you seek and cultivate in
your relationships – not just with men but with friends and family too. It can
be slightly egotistical – let´s be honest Queeny – you like to be at the centre
so it´s convenient taking responsibility so that the focus is on you.
But, how
can running be easy? Imagine the heartbreak, the shame of having given up, the
public explanations of why. Running is easy because when you run, you decide
that imperfect isn´t enough. Running avoids the realization that you Queeny are
not perfect and neither is he but that love is the accepting of the
imperfections. Imagine that, you don’t have
to be right and you don´t have to be the best person, be it the most
intelligent, the most hard working and moral woman Edinburgh produced; because
there are no comparisons.
Everyone is
just living a different context – a different truth. Judging and being
unsatisfied; those are your crutches.
How can we
satisfy you Queeny?
You know I´ve
been thinking...perhaps it´s about the pause. The being. The here. The now. The
joy. The satisfaction. Maybe we should stop setting the goals and just BE.
“Enjoy the journey” as they say. Dig deeper, pick up that relationship with God.
I recommend that you continue surrounding yourself with incredible women who
inspire you and who fill you with that powerful energy which flows with every
beat of your heart.
Relationships
are important to you – embrace that – smile to yourself remembering the truth
that you are a woman of courage and hope, who loves the world and cares greatly
for the people in it.
When you
moved – moving far from friends, family, jobs, and familiar locations – you
started with two suitcases and all 28 years of experiences, love and self. What
you have built these past two years has needed you to reach deep inside of
yourself and very gently pry open you´re core. You´ve grown as a woman and
opened your eyes to see yourself more clearly and in seeing yourself you can
see the world. This is your mission, to understand the world, to be kind to the
world, to be compassionate to the world; by first being understanding, kind and
compassionate to yourself. Being loved so unconditionally, and making that
journey with this man from stranger – friend – lover – partner – wife has had
such a profound impact because, as you learn to understand someone else, it has
set the scene for your own searching.
Thank you
for realizing how thankful you are for unconditional love. That someone can
love the whole of you – the bare truths – means that you are really not so bad
after all. Did you hear that Queeny? You really aren’t a bad person, you don’t
have anything to prove. This is your chance to free yourself of this burden – I
suspect it has weighed you down in the past.
You don’t have to prove to anyone that you are a good person and so stop
trying to be invaluable and responsible for anything other than your own
beautiful self.
Believe
that you are beautiful – know that your healing has served you well to
understand yourself but that knowing yourself is about accepting this self of
yours. So now all that’s left is for me to wish you courage as you continue
your journey. Be brave,be kind. Continuing being and continue finding joy in
that being. You alone are enough.
Thankfully,
Rebecca
Rebecca Gindele has worked with various development and human rights NGOs, she has a master´s degree in Human Rights with a focus on international monitoring and implementation mechanisms for women´s rights and has studied conflict resolution. She is very happily married, currently living in Colombia and enjoying working on local peace building projects.
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Rebecca Gindele has worked with various development and human rights NGOs, she has a master´s degree in Human Rights with a focus on international monitoring and implementation mechanisms for women´s rights and has studied conflict resolution. She is very happily married, currently living in Colombia and enjoying working on local peace building projects.
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