Love is Blind has captivated me through all its intriguing seasons, and the UK version along with Season Seven sparked my interest in writing this blog post.
There has been laughter
There has been confusion
There has been some occasional shouting at the screen
and a loooooooot of tik-tok debriefing sessions
What motivated me to share my thoughts here?
This common narrative below.
A man meets a women, who he pursues and expresses his love for, only for it come apparent that he has either omitted some truths or become entangled in significant lies that can’t be overlooked or overcome.
These untruths create tension in the relationship. As the woman seeks clarity and truth, she encounters intense gaslighting, making her doubt her feelings and her own intuition.
Often, these situations leave her feeling confused and questioning her choices, while the man seems to avoid accountability.
What I find most concerning the man blatant lack of accountability and the clear intent to rip this women's self esteem to shreds.
It leads to months of introspection, anxiety even depression for the women. Until finally someone tells her or it occurs to her on her own.... she is not the problem. He is. Meanwhile the man is walking around in denial acting like he's the one who was wronged. Only when he is publicly called out on social media does he reluctantly apologize to her.
We see this same story over and over again in real life and reality tv (in the real world the apology may never come).
In my humble opinion this needs to stop.
I would like the producers to take responsibility and actively seek opportunities to address this behavior.
They can also creatively demonstrate healthy ways to handle such situations, whether the couple decides to end their relationship or work through their issues.
Dear producers, you can give us fantastic trashy reality tv and educate us at the same time. Please do so.
What happens when you realize all this time that you are not the problem?
I have been trying and failing to fix, adjust, adapt for other people's needs and expectations.
A friend's sincere words helped me understand it is not about me
Also what happens when that bible-type of peace envelops you?
Confirming your safety and imprinting your mind with let go and let God.
Philippians 4:6-7:
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
I went on holiday for five days.
Destination: Napoli/Naples with a day visit to Pompei.
Typical Italian summer heat, between 30° and 35° most days.
I could only focus on keeping myself hydrated and enjoying my paid-for-adventure through streets, museums, churches, a castle, a monastery and an archeological site.
Dedication to my weekly walking sessions prepared me for the 45,000 steps between the hotel, train stations and tourist attractions.
I ate the best pizza of my life at 50 Kalo! Those pumpkin flowers are something.
Discovered that museum audio guides are the best introvert exploration devices ever invented!
Everyday worries and fears were sidelined.
While in deep discussion discovered that my healing journey is progressing much better than I thought and felt, because I stumbled on forgiveness after many years, waiting patiently to be activated.
So I set her on her way and carried on delighting in new sites, sounds and tastes.
After all, most of what scares me is out of my control whether I ruminate on it or not.
- Sansevero Chapel (expected a chapel got a Dan Brown experience)
- Museo Archeologico Nazionale di Napoli (enjoyed walking through all the collections with my audio guide at my own pace)
- Castel Sant'Elmo (for the beautiful views of the city)
- Complesso Monumentale di Santa Chiara (beautiful courtyard, had the best cappuccino freddo)
- Archaeological Park of Pompeii (because of your primary school geography lessons you must go...)
- Pulcinella's nose (never heard of him till I came to Naples but followed the tradition)
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